This is a new addiction – on the phone. More precisely – fear (phobia) of being left without it. It develops due to a hallucination that the brain sees. For example, we are looking at photos published on social networks on our phones – and this is something that does not exist. To see the world for real, you yourself have to be in the place that is captured in the picture.
The changed, the virtual world has become very accessible. And the more accessible the drug, the more drug addicts. We overexcite the brain with social networks, an abundance of information – and we begin to miss it, become addicted to it, instead of going for a ride with our family on bicycles.
By the way, rehabilitation centers for nomophobes are already appearing in China – where they are isolated from gadgets, they are engaged in occupational therapy. And they prescribe general therapy, as a result of which a person must understand: withdrawal is not what HE wants. Breaking is what the DISEASE sitting in its wants. This is taught to all addicts – to distinguish: what I want, and what is my INNER ENEMY.
Similar to nomophobia. You can clearly see this from the children: no matter what they watch, even the cutest educational cartoons, but after watching for a while they do not want anything but to continue watching TV! However, this addiction is not so common because the TV is less virtualized.
Addiction to another person
There are studies that show that people who are in love have insomnia and a loss of sense of time – the same as those who abuse … cocaine!
We have been told since childhood: you have to find your soul mate. It turns out until you find it – you are, as it were, half-assed, inferior. But if we believe that we cannot live without Hanna or Billy, then we are bad in ourselves as individuals!
Dependence on another person is often confused with love for him. A woman came to me with such an emotional addiction. “Look, I say, tangerines on the table – do you like them?” – “Yes, I love tangerines.” – “We are taking tangerines. Are you suffering? ” – “No.”. This is love. Yes, I like it, I am glad that there are tangerines in the world, but without them, I do not suffer. And addiction … I asked her: “Do you like oxygen?” But it never occurs to a person whether he loves. But when the air becomes scarce, he begins to suffer. It is addiction. There is no love for the air.
It is clear that in a relationship everything is not so simple. The question is not to focus on one person. Otherwise, if he disappears from life, then you yourself will be destroyed.
Addiction to gambling. It seems to consist of excitement and the feeling of a freebie. Gambling addicts lose a real idea of the value of money. They go to work, but the earnings do not make them happy, they immediately squander money in the game.
Gambling addicts, I think, are harder to treat than alcoholics. They have the same withdrawal symptoms, withdrawal symptoms. But for gambling addicts there is also too great a contrast between how they relate to themselves (“I am normal”!), And how – society (“stupid, pathetic”).
One of the reasons for its appearance is the lack of food. For example, we know that the last century in our country was associated with a large number of hungry people. Crop failures, revolution, wars, repression, and resettlement … – and only at the end of the 70s began to live more or less comfortably. In the 80s – again coupons, food shortages. And so, for generations, an attitude towards food is formed as something super-significant. A person who did not even starve himself, but was brought up by those who experienced a lack of food, as it were, tries on its super significance. And when we treat something as super important, we are afraid to lose it. And this fear is the same brittle, abstinence!
How does a hungry person act after reaching for food? He overeats. When my daughter tasted chocolate for the first time, she said: “very sweet”, she even wrinkled her face. But after the chocolate, the peach already seemed tasteless to her. Therefore, the brighter the food tastes, the more excitement it causes, neurotransmitters are produced, and receptors grow. And a person, being able to eat normally, in principle, begins to suffer from the lack of some special types of food. For example, with flavor enhancers, of which there are many in the same fast food.
What does our consumer society say? They say shopping is a stress reliever. And people run to shops, feel euphoria, then – often – disappointment (why did I buy all this ?!), often get into debt, loans …
Modern society, alas, is very fond of removing symptoms – the same depression. In the meantime, the disease is progressing. And what is this disease? Depression is a conflict with the world, with reality. Negative emotions – from the word “denial”. Man denies the world as it is. For example, a woman worries that her husband is walking. In fact, she is worried not because of this, but because she believes: the husband should not go for a walk! If she says to herself: yes, this can happen to me, as well as to other wives, then she worries less. And he begins to think about what to do with this situation: divorce or fight for her husband. But while she is worried, she cannot think.
I had a patient who had such an addiction. They are afraid of getting sick all the time. In other words, it is hypochondria. And it must be treated like hypochondria: a person must accept the possibility of getting sick, accept pain as part of life, go through pain in the imagination – and the brain will stop feeling fear. He will relax emotionally.
Or addiction to work – when a person is constantly looking for confirmation of his worth. If he doesn’t find her, he feels uncomfortable. This is done by someone who does not initially feel a sense of significance, is not self-sufficient. A person tries to shut up this problem by serving a certain cause, but in fact, he exhausts himself.
The sex addict is addicted to orgasm, and when there is none, he suffers. However, I must say that all people are sex-addicted to one degree or another, this is a tool for procreation. Like all people, we are addicted to food, because if we do not eat, hunger will begin, and then death.
How the brain is excited?
Step 1. Alcohol, nicotine, super-sugary / fatty foods, or strong emotion affect the person.
Step 2. The brain is overexcited and begins to produce neurotransmitters in excess of the norm (in the normal state, they are simply responsible for a calm, even mood).
Step 3. When there are more neurotransmitters than necessary, special antennae, receptors, begin to grow on the neurons of the brain. They grow to accept a neurotransmitter molecule — in other words, to transmit “extra” joy to a neuron in the brain. The more we expose it to super-experiences, the more antennae-receptors grow.
Step 4. Over time, neurotransmitters, which have their own lifespan, stop working. But the antennae remain! And when there are many of them, and there are as many neurotransmitters, as usual, the unoccupied antennae begin to vibrate, “showing” to the brain that they are empty. They “show” this with mental anxiety.
Step 5. The person begins to feel discomfort and tries to remove it with the help of a new portion of the “drug” (alcohol, shopping, salty food, etc.). He again produces many neurotransmitters, the antennae stop bothering him. And then the belief arises that alcohol (shopping, food, etc.) is his friend, which helps to cope with irritation. This is the moment when PSYCHOLOGICAL addiction begins to form.
BY THE WAY
Any drug relieves only that irritation, which itself provokes. He created a withdrawal – and took it off himself. And a person perceives this as getting rid of external discomfort.
Is it possible to live without addictions?
You can strive, live – no. Dependency is a limitation. And its antagonist – freedom – is the absence of restrictions. But a person does not have one hundred percent freedom. We are born with addictions – food, water, air. Well, society then supplements life with other addictions. The only question is whether we allow this to society or not. For example, we start thinking critically: why are we being forced to shopaholism as a stress reliever? Well, it’s clear why: we must sell! And when we incorporate this rational approach, we no longer get bogged down in addictions.