Fear of loneliness

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Many of us do not like to be alone, but for some people, the prospect of being alone causes panic and a lot of unpleasant symptoms from the body that poison life.

Causes of the fear of loneliness in adults
Many people feel quite comfortable being alone, but some develop a literal panic fear that can be traced back to early childhood or adolescence. It is especially likely that such a phobia will develop in people with a weak character, dependent on parents or other relatives, who are not ready to take responsibility or be responsible for their actions. They always need a partner nearby, and if he disappears, they immediately look for another.

People who have no friends, no other half suffer from such a phobia more often. The real reason may lie in the inability to communicate, build relationships, establish contacts. There is also a high risk of fear of loneliness (autophobia) in people who are shy, very vulnerable, forced to lead a lifestyle that does not suit their temperament.
The development of phobia is influenced by public opinion, stereotypes imposed by society, including the inferiority of those who, by a certain age, do not have a family or children. Often, such fears are cultivated by parents, instilling in their children the wrong attitudes – “who needs you like that”, “so you will always be alone”, “alone, I love you so much.” Divorces of parents, abuse, lack of love, and warmth in the family also affect.

The risk of autophobia is high among people who have experienced loss – loved ones, friends, children, spouses. They were already alone and they have a panic fear of going through it again.

Symptoms of fear of loneliness in adults
If we are talking about children or adolescents, then they have similar fears manifested by tantrums and crying when the child is left alone in a room or apartment. Teens can also connect with a variety of questionable individuals to spend their time in their company. There is evidence that autophobia can manifest itself at the level of physical sensations in the form of itchy dermatitis or other skin problems.

Adults suffering from a pathological fear of loneliness, have problems with relationships, are afraid to marry, fearing that they will be disappointed in their partner, or he will leave them. Other options are living with the first person you meet, just not to be lonely.

In marriage, these people show bouts of pathological jealousy, and not only in relation to a partner, but also children. A person tries to keep others around him by hook or by crook, giving them the opportunity to live as they want. Women are more susceptible to such fear, they go to various tricks, use manipulations – feign illness, appeal to feelings of guilt. As the condition worsens, clinical symptoms appear. These include:

  • constant worries, nervousness, irritability;
  • desire to be constantly surrounded by people;
  • fear of staying by himself/herself even for several hours;
  • constant obsessive attention;
  • indifference to the events taking place around;
  • trembling in the body;
  • cold sweat;
  • increased blood pressure with a rapid heartbeat;
  • shallow breathing with a feeling of suffocation.

How to get rid of the fear of loneliness in adults
Pathological fear, which develops according to the scenario of a phobic disorder, requires treatment. It is important that a professional is engaged in this, otherwise, serious problems, including suicidal attempts, are possible.

The basis of diagnosis is a detailed conversation with the patient, clarifying all the manifestations of a phobia, analyzing the medical history and previous life from childhood. Sometimes you need conversations with parents or friends, a partner, and to exclude serious diseases – a complete clinical examination.

Modern methods of treatment
If you cannot cope with fear yourself, a psychotherapist will help. But it is important to understand that fear will not go away in one session or one day, there is a long work ahead. The doctor can use various methods – group or individual therapy, additionally prescribe sedatives, psychostimulants, or antidepressants. They are not needed by everyone and not always, it all depends on the situation and the severity of the phobia, concomitant disorders.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy is most effective today. It helps to influence both the causes and form a new model of human behavior. With this method of treatment, people learn to understand themselves, control emotions and feelings, and relax. This helps to combat phobia.

Prevention of aerophobia in adults at home
The basis for the prevention of such a phobia is the rational upbringing of a child in a healthy environment, in an atmosphere of love and trust, timely resolution of conflicts, refusal from derogatory and judgmental statements and attitudes.

Are complications of this phobia possible?
The fear of loneliness is noted in the modern world more and more often. People are afraid to be alone. Outwardly, it is difficult to recognize this fear. It can manifest itself in the fact that a teenager falls into unreliable companies. In an adult state, this is both adulteries in marriage, and jealousy of a partner, and pathological relationships with children (it is difficult to let them go live their own lives).

Sometimes a person lives someone else’s life, and not his own, because he believes that his life is not interesting. Such people feel unhappy, they are insecure and this state can lead to suicide.

Which doctor should you go to with such a problem, is it possible to cure yourself or with the help of non-traditional methods?
Neither dietary supplements, nor osteopaths, nor acupuncture will help. They have no effect, and sometimes they can also harm (do not forget about allergies, side effects, etc.).

You can help yourself, but you definitely need to tune in to work with a psychologist or psychotherapist. Only a specialist, having the necessary knowledge and experience in solving similar problems in other people of different ages, will help to cope with a phobia.


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