- Approval of others
Who cares what they think of you? If you are happy with your decisions, you have made the right choice, and it does not matter what others say. Imagine how much effort you spend trying to read other people’s thoughts, and still not guess.
Listen to advice – please, but do not let others decide how you live.
- Anger and resentment
Anger destroys from within, so learn to put up with annoying people. This does not mean that you can let others use you, just not to bring to scandal. You just have to deal with the hatred, resentment and pain that remains inside. Remember: the one who is angry controls you.
Some relish their resentment as a gourmet dish, and this does not lead to anything good. Such feelings harm only you, not those to whom they are directed.
- The image of an ideal body
How often do you follow the trends of the beauty industry, the opinion of your relatives and friends? The body is that little that really belongs to you. Who, if not you, should decide how it should look? What matters is how you feel. The rest is decay.
- Dreams of a perfect partner
Each in his head has a set of qualities that an ideal partner should possess. But life usually spits on these lists.
To be happy, you must love a person with all your heart, feel easy and comfortable next to him, and he must accept you as you are. At least the first two points coincided – well, you found what you need.
- Perfect life
Just as there is no perfect partner, there is no perfect fate. Life is what you invest in it, so if you are not ready to work seriously and make efforts, then you have decided to be unhappy.
You can create your own world, the most beautiful of all worlds.
- Wealth as an end in itself
Many people live with the idea of becoming a millionaire. This is a good goal, but to achieve it will require a lot of work.
Do not go in cycles in large sums. The main thing is to find a business that will be your passion, and fulfill yourself, then the money will come.
- Hope for luck
You should not wait when you are lucky. Appreciate your life and be thankful for what you already have.
Justification is your attempt not to feel like shit when you once again do not do what you should have done for a long time.
- Thoughts on the Former
You broke up, and there was a reason. Remembering your former love, think not about the person, but about the lessons that life has taught you. Do not dwell on feelings for someone who will never be with you. It will only ruin a new relationship and make you suffer.
It’s hard to admit that you were mistaken in something. It’s just that other people had more knowledge or ability to do something right. So stop resisting, just accept it as a fact. The less stubborn you are, the more open you are to something new. Think about how much you can experience and feel if you try to understand and accept someone else’s opinion other than your own.
Stop transferring tasks to tomorrow, live today. If you constantly put off a business, think about whether it is worth undertaking it at all? Maybe you do not need it? And if necessary, take it right now: constant procrastination causes feelings of guilt and stress. Is it worth it to suffer?
- Baggage of memories
Do not drag along the baggage of memories, especially about past relationships. If you loved someone strongly or thought you loved, then you will subconsciously compare him with a new person who is not to blame for anything.
Making new relationships, get rid of old ones. Not only in life, but also in your head.
This is true for falling in love, and for all relationships in general: with friends, acquaintances, colleagues.
Thoughts and words materialize. So change your life attitude to “everything will be fine.” Nothing is impossible for a person who believes in it.
Since the world is a projection of our thoughts, we know for sure that everyone gossips about us (because we do it ourselves). Vicious circle: you will not be able to fulfill the advice number 1, that is, do not think about the opinions of others, unless you stop criticizing other people yourself.
Just remember: you were not in their shoes, even if it seems to you that you were. Each one has his own cockroaches in his head, and in life his own circumstances, so tie up.
Social networks make people unhappy. We look at our former classmates, classmates and acquaintances, and turn green with envy, feeling like a nonsense.
The next time you catch yourself feeling this way, think about this: “Would I like to become the person I envy?” Surely not, you love yourself (even if somewhere very deep inside).
You look at someone else’s life that you do not know. You can’t even imagine what this person is thinking. Maybe when he dives into the pool of his private house, he hates himself or is afraid of something wildly? Maybe you, walking through the forest on a sunny day, feel much more pleasure than he, basking in the white sand in the Maldives?
Stop looking at others. If you feel good now, then everything is correct. If not, make it good.
Happy people, as a rule, have self-esteem (just do not confuse it with a bloated ego). They are satisfied with themselves and radiate confidence.
There is no reason to doubt yourself. If you have traits that you hate, there are two ways: accept them or change them. Every person has everything at once: a libertine, a puritan, a lying scum, and a gentleman. You choose who you want to be.
- Dependence on others
No one will fill the void within you. No one will make you positive and self-sufficient if you are unhappy with fate. To share your happiness with someone else, you must first become happy yourself. So do not even hope that your success is in the wrong hands. Only in yours.
- The past
Living in the past means burying your present. There were mistakes – well, who didn’t have them? Arrange a lush funeral for your memories, remember only the lessons and live on.
- Total control
Sometimes you just need to relax and let life take its course. You cannot control everything, and you have to come to terms with it. Otherwise, you will be constantly nervous, but in the end, still do not change anything. There are just things that are out of your control. They must be accepted as they are.
People think that others must meet their expectations. That’s bullshit. Nobody owes you anything, nor do you owe anything. No one should be polite, attentive, neat, honest, pleasant in communication, clean, after all. Nothing should be perfect, delicious, unforgettable, but it can be. If it is – excellent, if not – you will not be upset. Be ready to accept everything that life sends you, and you will find happiness.