“Try to think positively” – you have heard this advice a million times. Of course, there is nothing wrong with it, but not everyone succeeds in following it.
It’s easier for people to think about the bad than the good. Once we encounter danger, like cavemen, we begin to look for other things that can harm us.
Pamela Gale Johnson, Founder of The Secret Society of Happy People
Therefore, you need to make an effort to learn to think that nothing bad will happen, and then look for something positive. Here are a few tricks to help you do this.
- Find a way to incorporate positive attitudes into everyday life.
Positive attitudes, or affirmations that we repeat daily, help increase self-esteem if you really believe what we say. This is confirmed by scientific research.
Until affirmations become a habit, you will most likely forget about them throughout the day. To fix this, try a life hack like this:
I created passwords for all online services, consisting of the first letters of words in a sentence. For example, one of the passwords was a short version of the phrase “Every day I get better and better.” And I repeat this installation daily, logging in.
Greg Shepard, Healthy Life Expert
- Imagine that negative thoughts are the passengers of the bus you are driving
My favorite trick is this: I imagine that negative thoughts are unsolicited advice that I will never follow. I say, “Thank you,” and ignore him.
Joe Eclair, licensed psychologist
This Mindbus Technique: can teach you how to control a brief mindfulness strategy and not give them much thought.
You just imagine yourself a bus driver in which negative thoughts have gathered. You can even give each passenger a personality and voice. They travel with you and annoy you with their ongoing pessimistic conversations. And here the main thing is to remember that the bus driver is you. And only in your power to drive them out of the cabin.
This is a good strategy to understand that it is not thoughts that control you, but exactly the opposite.
- Turn negative thoughts into neutral
If we are haunted by negative thoughts, it is easiest to turn them into neutral ones first.
Sasha Heinz, specialist in developmental psychology and a certified personal growth instructor
It is difficult to switch from an anxious state to a happy one only thanks to the settings. For example, if you have worried for a very long time that you still have not met your love, affirmations are unlikely to help you join positively minded people. This is not so easy. Therefore, at first it is better to neutralize the negative and only then to practice positive attitudes.
It’s much easier to move from “I will never meet my love” to “I just have not met the right person” rather than shouting at once: “My half is already halfway to me!” Your brain will more easily accept such changes.
- Try the technique of emotional freedom
Using your fingertips, examine the meridians of the body, such as the area of the crown of the head, tap on them and repeat affirmations. Thanks to this, you can remove the emotional blocks.
Keep in mind that technology requires a complete understanding between the body and the mind. It may seem to some that this is too much. But if the technique aroused genuine interest, you can try. However, there is no scientific evidence of its effectiveness.
- Cover with a heavy blanket
Negative thoughts bother not only during the day, but also at night. And then a blanket will come to the rescue. It turns out that sleeping under a weighty blanket (from two to 13 kg) will help to relieve worry deal with anxiety. As experts explain, it exerts tangible pressure on your body, and this helps to relax and helps you fall asleep faster.
Perhaps this is due to the effect of grounding the body, which reduces the levels pain, and stress and improves and sleep.
- Try aromatherapy
Although aromatherapy has not been sufficiently studied, some evidence of its effectiveness are exist. It helps to cope with anxiety and improves sleep quality.
When you inhale the aroma of oils, it acts on the limbic system of the brain, which is also responsible for our emotions.
Lindsay Elmore, Pharmacist and Healthy Lifestyle Expert
You can use a diffuser or just take a bath by adding a couple drops of oil.
- Stop the fight
Couples who are confident from the start that their relationship is doomed eventually end up diverging. This is the Pygmalion effect in action: you are unconsciously doing what leads to the expected result. You will either be too smart and go into offensive mode, hoping to change the situation, or you will simply go with the flow, because the problem does not deserve attention.
In the case of negative thoughts, everything works the same way. You are completely immersed in the problem, consider all possible solutions, and thereby only increase its significance. Instead, simply acknowledge, accept, and embrace your negative thoughts.
You will enter the “I’m not going to fight them” mode, free of pressure and resistance. Moving towards a positive life is easier when you are in harmony with your negative thoughts.
Jacqueline Pearl, Trainer for Happiness and Awareness
Life is cruel, and turning from a pessimist into an optimist at the click will fail. But you have to start. By taking a small step towards the goal every day, you will achieve it without fail.